Question: what makes a person think it is ok to take something that does not belong to them? For example, why does a 3 year old think they can take a toy from another 3 years old and walk around saying “It’s Mine?” Have we grown up believing that whatever we want, irrespective of the fact that it belongs to someone else, we can have? Are there no limits on what you can or should take?
For the past year or so, these questions have been filling my mind. I’ll tell you a story about a few of my friends and how one likes to take things that do not belong to her.
Let’s call our characters John, Suzy and Jennifer. Story story…STORY. Once upon a time, TIME TIME. There lived a girl named Suzy, a beautiful, humble, caring and loving lady. John couldn’t help but fall in love with her. She was everything he ever wanted, except that she was a very simple woman. She hadn’t experienced most things, but she was open to trying new things. At the time John didn’t care, he loved that fact about her and loved her even more. John eventually made the bold step in asking Suzy to marry him, in which she screamed yes! It was time for them to start there new lives together.
See John had this amazing job that allowed him to travel the world. And that he did. Shortly after their engagement, John was assigned abroad for 3 mos. Both sad, took the assignment in stride because they knew what the future held for them. John traveled abroad. While abroad he constantly called Suzy, wrote her letters, bought her gifts, even took care of her family.
Then one day, John met Jennifer. Now Jennifer was nowhere near as beautiful, humble or caring as Suzy, but Jennifer was more adventurous. Jennifer showed John things that he’s never seen before. And of course Jennifer knew John was engaged, he told her upfront. And Jennifer was ok with that. Jennifer slowly but surely started falling in love with John, and John being the man that he was couldn’t help but give in to his physical desires. And the ___ happened. Yep! They had sex. Now, John’s job decided to make his position abroad permanent. Of course he was excited, better pay, better location and a nice place to start a family. John, still madly inlove with Suzy, told her the good news.
After the 3 months, John returned to his home town married Suzy and brought her abroad with him to start a life. Jennifer was not happy at all. She loved this man.
But you see, the man had a CHOICE. He WASN’T married to Suzy yet, he could have left Suzy and started a life with Jennifer if he truly loved her, but he didn’t. He choice Suzy. (now back to the story).
Angry, Jennifer vowed to destroy Suzy’s life. She became close friends with Suzy who was now pregnant with John’s child. And manipulatively as possible, began to seduce John. And John, (stupid as he is in this whole situation) fell for her. John, started treating his family (Suzy and born child) horribly. No longer, the love he thought he had, he began to bully Suzy, hide money from her, yell scream, slave her around, all because of Jennifer, who revealed in what was going on.
O for Jennifer to stop, HA, never, she loved it. Despite all the warnings, and pleadings, and talks from family members and friends involved, she would not heed warning. This went on for years and years.
**my story ends here, because it’s still an ongoing matter**
And again I ask, what makes one think they can take what does not belong to them and cause misery to the one it belongs to?
Do people not fear God? Or take religion out of it, do people not fear karma? Do people not understand the law of physics: for every actions there’s an equal and opposite reaction; what goes up eventually must come down?
It truly baffles me!
Haven’t been on for a while so please forgive me.!! I need to release some emotions and this was the only safe place I could think of….and my rant begins……
Literally the other day I found out that my recent ex
was cheating on me when were dating, sorry I meant he used me to cheat on his girlfriend at the time. It has me upset not because we broke up or anything, but because he and I are still really good friends and I feel as though our whole friendship is based on a lie. I mean we talk almost everyday, I lead him to Christ and shared so much with him, just to find out that we were premised on a lied. It kind of hurts. Funny enough, we were speaking the other day and he was telling me how he can’t be with any other girl but me…blah blah blah. Can I say my heart fooled me into believing him. O the foolishness and deception of the heart (Jer. 17:9).
Immediately I found out, I called my bestfriend and gisted her like crazy lol and out of anger her response was “N**** aint s*** (please forgive her, she was angry on my behalf). I wouldn’t go as far to say that Ns aren’t S, simply because I hate the N word, its a sign of ignorance (a later rant), and I try not to curse so S is out of my vocabulary as well lol. But call me a helpless romantic, or what have you, but I truly believe that guys are gifts and that there are great and loving men out there, despite what media and society portrays. But you see I’ve found the secret to good men and a good relationship.
Do you want to know?
It’s building your relationship on God. (I know, it’s such a profound yet simple discovery). (2 Tim. 2:19). A relationship with God as the center is the only relationship that works. When you’re both looking to God and loving him, trusting in him, and honoring him, He makes it easier for you to honor and love each other. So can I say that after discovering this, I sat and thought about my past relationships. Not because I missed any of them, but because I like to look at my past failures, see what went wrong and how I can develop from there. And I sat and sat and thought and thought and it dawned on me that none, not one of my relationships had God as the foundation, the center. I mean some of them had God as the onlooker, or as a standbyer, the “ill call you or talk to you when we need help” God, but he wasn’t the center. A HA!! That’s what went wrong.
I love having A HA moments lol. So, moving forward, I can’t be mad at my ex for what he did. I can’t even be mad at myself for allowing my heart to deceive me. I can’t be mad at all, because we didn’t know. I was so immature in my faith, yet I thought I was so strong. But little did I know. But now, I DO NOT profess to know everything or anything at that, but I do know that I don’t want a relationship with a guy that does not have God as the core. I don’t want a relationship with a guy where we’re both not running, sprinting, seeking, thirsting, hunger after God. O NO!!! I can’t and I refuse. (Prov. 4:23). It’s time to protect my heart, protect my soul, protect my body and mind.
I’ve heard and read time and time again that “a man that does not care about your soul, does not care about you.” And now I fully grasp the understanding of that. I am very much an old fashioned girl in the sense that I believe and honestly love the idea that the man is the head of the house, and as such, we as women need to learn to be submissive and obedient (not in the sense that this world has connoted the word submissive and obedience to mean. Actually those words are truly beautiful if people look at in the context of the bible and not the world). And I honestly can’t see myself being submissive and obedient to a man who is not submissive and obedient to God. Never ever!! I can’t see myself with a guy who doesn’t put God before everything and everyone, including myself and our family. Yes I said it! If you don’t have God then a wife and family means absolutely NOTHING to you!!
So yes, this is my rant, sorry for making it so long. But I had a lot on my mind and needed to get it out. I had too many emotions going on in me and needed to release my anger, frustration, enlightenment, happiness and determination. lol
Have a blessed day!